When money becomes the only thing.

Cut me some slack here,, I have been the stay at home, allowed the pm to be just pm and with the TPS but all am expected to be is the stay at home and loose my life??? no!!refer to the music by a certain genious reggae man, "imagine>>men washing the dishes?, women going to work, tere re reren and ..............and poor fellows like me walking across the stage in a bikini, imagine>> woman president......." sing some more............But today i'll talk more about the money  factor.

 I can remember at some point in life asking my own mother where the companionship, for greater or for worse, for richer or poor cliches said in weddings go to after, so that in all your complaints about dad its always the money factor?? Or what would you make of, scrolling payslips, showing me the firstborn, and exclaiming,"niwona kiria thoguo aearnaga na no johi, guku tukiria githeri!!?"(you see what your father earns and its only beer here as we eat githeri). Ofcourse this after accessing a certain drawer that she herself must have thought never opens and drawing the slips..

Ofcourse it goes the proverbial, 'like father like son', and yes am not proud of that behaviour and i promise to improve on where my father left with some encouragement ,  motivation and no putting down for a man can get to whichever level you want him, what i call work in progress. My mum has always taught me its bad, poor picture , to come home with bones for the dog without any meat for the family.

We cannot deny this that our mothers are the greatest pillars of our lives if they want to be, (some i guess just opt the easy way out and fail to provide their children the best in life  including fatherly love for they seek divorce in satisfaction of their own selfish gains. What of perseverance that you proclaimed infront of crowds hypocritically, this for those that have been taken 'down the aisle'. No judgemental here but what do you explain of the many a politician women, heads of civil societies, FIDA women that are divorcees, 'singles' in quotes, imagine woman prezy??, Is it that money or status make them or lead them. i tend to feel so  because you'll never hear a prezy's wife has ran but another goon's will, goon because you should never loose your manhood no matter. When they get status and the man's pulling it down by maybe being of lesser money or status. Even a woman whose got status via huzy no matter the problems will put up even when she knows there's too much competition(read mpango wa kando), . other than loose her status she better nurse her tears on that expensive pillow. Props to those that do.

 This reminds me of some humourous period in this country of ours Kenya that the women federation had suggested a zegz hunger strike on 'their men' in quotes 'their' because some of them are the above named and if they get it is by hiring another goon to satisfy their zegsual needs (tell me one without this i'll show you one that was not created!?). They dont know that we had even more right to visit "sue Maisha" on a regular basis or either the mipangos got a car!!, for they know what buttons to press(women got the influence , men authority), make a man feel like one where pms fail, ego massage, treat him like a king he is and dont put him down for again he can go to the level you want him to get when the patience runs out.

Women on the other hand love the zegz even more and i feel all they need is the 'security' to have it and without interfering with the P.R part of it like they wonna have it anywhere anytime so long as the jonesses or friends wont label her a slut. This obviously is one sided for there're those carefree and go-getters either for money or zegsual needs with the notion, "why keep a cow whereas you can get the milk in the shop?".

This situation i find myself after the pm received her first paycheck. I find myself now become the broke ass but when we were both jobless life was better . Now the status changes moreso the shopping doubles, whereas the rent which by her own will had promised earlier in the beggining of work life she'll take a greater proportion in regarding to the little ration i got spared for rent, only to know better. truelly a woman's motto is ,'My money is mine, yours is ours'. Thats why they'll accept a lowly paying job because they know a man somewhere will take care (kazi kwetu).

Anyway cash will always deminish in mysterious ways but its no problem, it comes and goes but for them its 'the only thing.' The talk too changes becomes, "you see Rahab the secretary? she's so jealous of me because madam now seems to favour me more  and suspects i get more." no longer the Nyambura of market and Dorothy who'd become too familiar " have raised the price of tomato and my favourite avocado.. Snoping what other people could be earning, noting the office women rivalry and knowing what camp to be in and other things i doubt can add a coin in one's pocket.

Why do women just want to know?, or its rumour collecting?, I guess more the latter for i have met some that will try put words in your mouth. Anyway as i reiterated earlier on "beneath the sun" post divorce has not been the better option,  for the many, for the chidren suffer and for those driven by third parties even worse. The grass being greener means you got to mow it too! (na utapata hufuliwi ngotha huko!)